Would you go to this persons wedding, if this happened to you?
I got married a few months ago privately, we decided not to invite family and have a small ceremony. After we got married, we sent a bulk email out to our family with weblink of our wedding photos .
In error my cousins fiance replied to my entire family email list stating that we looked “lonley” in some of our photos and that we have a whole negative backstory (she was intending to send this response to her close girlfriend, but my entire family got this disrespectful email).
This devestated us as newlyweds that someone could be so cruel, especially someone that is going to be marring my cousin and be family. She called us crying, sent flowers, wrote a letter to help re-establish her reputation, but we are still bitter with her. My cousin sent an apoligy via email (i expected a call), my aunt and uncle did not respond or apologize to me at all.
Now a few months later my cousin and this girl are getting married. My wife does not want to go. Would you go to this wedding ?
First of all, you must understand mistakes happen, especially when computers are involved. They can be tricky, I have once sent something out to “everyone” when it was only meant for one person and I can tell you it was embarassing.
Secondly, think about it, was she really being malicious and nasty when sending that email? Was she being catty or just expressing an opinion….because I would maybe look at photos of a bride and groom all alone in their photos and also think they look “lonely” but not be meaning it in a nasty way…..just making a comment on it. Remember she was only sending it to one person. (so she thought anyways)
Just because she said that doesnt mean she didnt approve of it or was laughing at it. A small wedding such as yours is incredibly beautiful and romantic.
It sounds like she is genuinely sorry, and has tried to make ammends with the flowers and calls, writing letters….what more can she do??
I can understand you are hurt, your wedding day was special to you guys and you did it your way….just be sure you have not taken what she said out of context. Having not read it myslef I cant really judge…only you can really know.
But I really do think here, it is up to you guys to let it go. If you keep on thinking of it and miss their wedding because of it, you really are taking it too far and punishing yourselves too. Show you guys are the bigger people here and go to the wedding and be gracious. It will be more uncomfortable for her than it will be for you guys, believe me.
Life is way too short to let this grudge come into your family life.
Go to the wedding….enjoy it, hold your heads up high and show that you guys can rise above it.
Good luck. I am sure you had a beautiful wedding.
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